Typology of the johns
Johns can be roughly divided into two main categories: the hobbyists, and the others.
For the purpose of this typology, the hobbyists are those johns who write and read reviews of theirs and their fellow hobbyists' encounters with sex workers (escorts, MPs, strippers, pro-domme/pro-sub, etc.), share information about sex workers, and spend an impressive amount of time doing so.
I have been a registered although silent member of TOsluts since starting in this business. The initial purpose of becoming a member was to read reviews posted on my 'services', but scientific curiosity is what kept me going back for more. This board is such a fascinating window into the minds of straight men:
A first observation that the outsider will make is that the hobbyist is a man who seems to have difficulty understanding the difference between buying a car and paying for an escort service. He also appears to be a man who doesn't deal well with the pesky reality that sex workers are human beings. How dare she not perform X service while he paid his 'hard earned money' for half an hour with her? "YMMV of course, but should there not be limits to YMMV"?, asks the hobbyist. His attachment to a numerical system to rate various escorts -- ie human beings -- also speaks of his inability to distinguish between a car performance and an intimate encounter between two (or more) human beings.
The hobbyist also seems to have a sad, boring, and uneventful sex life outside of the hobby. This would explain the emphasis he puts in his reviews on the minutia of the different sexual positions he and his 'date' performed. Interestingly, the hobbyist thus seems to share some defining characteristics with a small but zealous group of yuppies yoga practitioners.
A significant group of hobbyists appear to have had bitter, traumatizing, and heart-breaking experiences in their love life. Or didn't get breastfed. Whatever the cause, this group of hobbyists hold resent, contempt, and passive-aggressive sentiment towards women, especially of the escort persuasion: women are nagging, bitching, high-maintenance, gold digging nuisances which he unfortunately is attracted to sexually. It seems this group of hobbyists would be much happier being gay, but homophobia is also rampant amongst them.
Another significant group of hobbyists seem to be deluded and having difficulty making the distinction between fantasy and reality. This can be seen in the assumptions contained in questions they ask, such as "Would you date/marry an escort?" or "Does size matter?" and in statements they make, such as "She was really into it" or "maybe she wasn't into me". The archetype of this group is the hobbyist who contacts escorts asking them out on a off-the-clock, non-paying date, ie, asking for a freebie.
Interestingly, a large group of hobbyists seem committed to the idea of monogamy, although they seem unclear on the meaning of such an arrangement. Among them, many like to blame nature, biology, genetics and/or some version of social Darwinism to explain their choices.
While many hobbyists seem to be making a living in the business world, it seems that many of them aren't clear on their economic basics. Their lack of understanding of the capitalist market would explain their continuous whining and bitching about escorts rates:
"Why is she now VIP? How can she justify the increase in price without an increase of the quality/diversity of service? Wha? you ask a minimum of 2 hours, for 400$? But i could get three better looking full-PSE girls for the same amount of cash! How come you're still asking the same rates now that you are indy, while you don't have to give away an agency and driver cut?"
It would be interesting to produce a comparative research into other service-paying habits of those hobbyists: do they also question and argue the rates of their dentists, dry-cleaners, lawyers, accountants, caterers, baby-sitters, etc.? Or do they simply choose their non-sexual service providers like most people do, ie, based on the service they're looking for and the price they can afford?
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09-11-2008, 10:59 AM
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